St. Yves Law Blog
The Woodlands Bar Association CLE Program
On January 8, 2020, I will be speaking on Lawyer Wellness at The Woodlands Bar Association luncheon to be held at The Strong Law Firm located at 1790 Hughes Landing Blvd., Suite 200, The Woodlands, TX 77380. If you would like additional information, please contact my office or Jennifer LeMaster at firstname.lastname@example.org. I look forward to seeing you there.
Holiday Office Schedule
Merry Christmas to all of our clients. To assure that our staff can enjoy the holidays with family and friends, our office will be operating on a limited holiday schedule. We will be available to our current clients, potential clients, attorneys and courts; however, we will be working remotely so please contact us via email:
Diane St. Yves – Diane@styveslaw.com
Ashley Coleman – Ashley@styveslaw.com
Anna Hines – email@example.com
If you have an emergency or need to speak with us on the phone, please call our office at 281-501-1558 and your message will be emailed to me and our staff. We are here and will always be here to help you and your family. We encourage you to reach out and we will surely accommodate any issues and requests you may have!
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR to all!
Holiday Possession and Access
The holidays can create unnecessary conflict between custodial and noncustodial parents. First and foremost, if you and your child’s parent can agree on a schedule, you are encouraged and more than welcome to do so. There is no watchdog making sure that the parties follow the schedule in the court order so therefore parents are encouraged to work out a schedule that works for the children.
However, in many circumstances, the parents cannot agree on a schedule that deviates from the court order. If that is the case and to avoid unnecessary conflict, the parties should read and follow the court order. A possession order can be confusing and convoluted. It is impossible to digest completely and a parent should read only the language for each period of possession (i.e., holiday possession schedule). Whenever an agreement is impossible to accomplish, read the current order and follow the terms and conditions of the order.
Sometimes the possession order appears to be unfair or unjust as to one parent. It is impossible to draft around this situation. There are years when a parent who has the first portion of the Christmas holidays gets far more time than the other parent. These circumstances are out of control of the parties, attorneys and the court. It is simply how it falls. The next year or the next period of possession may work in your favor. Instead of lamenting this issue with the other parent, accepting it and moving forward is always in the best interests of the children.
Children need to know that the parent not in possession of the children are enjoying their time away. Of course the children need to know that they are missed; however, making sure that the parent not in possession is visiting other family and friends, watching a movie, going to dinner, etc. provides the children with the peace of mind that a parent is not lonely, depressed and alone. Be sure to tell your children what you have done in their absence so that they do not feel responsible for your well-being. Allow your children to enjoy their time away without worrying about you no matter how lonely you are or how much you miss them.
District of Columbia
On October 8, 2019, I was admitted to practice law in the District of Columbia. I hope that I will have an opportunity to join with other family law attorneys in the District of Columbia to protect families and children.
American Academy of Family Law Specialists
As a newly appointed Fellow of the American Academy of Family Law Specialists, I am honored to be attending my first national meeting in Chicago, Illinois. A great opportunity to network with the best of the best family law attorneys in the Country. Being selected as a member of this prestigious organization was a culmination of a lengthy application process, recommendations, and interviews. It is a distinction enjoyed by only the best family law attorneys in the country.
Taking Control Workshop – November 2, 2019
“Taking Control Workshop” brings together financial, legal and psychological experts to help women cope with the beginning , the middle and what comes after divorce. What an incredible opportunity to strengthen others. Thank you Chad Scott for allowing me to share my perspective on property issues today.
Taking Control Workshop on January 5, 2019
If you are woman going through divorce or contemplating divorce, please join us for Taking Control Workshop on January 5, 2019, at 9:30 a.m. at St. John’s Episcopal Church, 2450 River Oaks Blvd, Houston, Texas.
This is a free half day workshop where you will have the opportunity to hear from an attorney, financial advisor and counselor about the trials, pitfalls and other concerns you may have going through the divorce process. Diane St. Yves will be speaking on the visitation process and will be available to answer any questions or concerns you may have about the legal aspects of divorce.
The Taking Control Workshop for Women Facing Divorce is an educational program designed to educate women about the emotional, financial and legal aspects of divorce. Since 1999, the Taking Control Workshop has allowed women the opportunity to acquire knowledge on divorce from local top professionals in the following fields; family law, mediation, financial divorce analysis, sex therapy and emotional therapy. The Taking Control Workshop has been empowering women from Houston and surrounding areas by providing them with the knowledge they will need to be successful during and after the divorce.
There are no products or services offered at the Workshop, this is an educational event. Attendees will learn about divorce process options, including mediation, collaborative divorce, and litigation; and topics such as child support, child custody, alimony, and property division.
In addition, learn how to prepare yourself for the separation, financially.
• What are the things you should be prepared to handle now that you’re on your own again?
• How do you handle the financial changes and new obligations that may arise?
• How does your budget change?
• How does your retirement preparation change?
• What about Social Security?
No matter where you are in the process of untying the knot. It provides unbiased information to help you understand all of your options, deal with your emotions, and move forward with your life.
For more information or to register for this free event, CLICK HERE.
Mediation is the process of settling a case by using a disinterested and trained third party to resolve the differences between the parties. The parties are in separate rooms and rarely do their paths cross. Most family law cases actually settle prior to trial. Many times my clients ask or even insist on going to trial. I enjoy the work and challenge of trial yet am always supportive of a resolution without trial. Why? If a family law case goes to trial, you are asking a judge or a jury of 12 of your peers to make the decision as to where your children will primarily reside. I describe a family law trial as throwing a hand grenade into the middle of your family. It is grueling, scary, unpredictable and expensive. Sometimes Mediation means you give up something to get something else. Sometimes it’s just a compromise where you have to plug your nose to sign. Sometimes a case just has to go to trial and the preparation process will begin long before the date you’re set to go. If you do have to go to trial, think about the effects it will have on you, your children and your financial future and decide wisely.
If you are needing assistance with your family law case, please call our office at 281-501-1558 and schedule a time to meet with us. We are always here to help.
Young children are generally more resilient than older or grown children in divorce
Frequently I hear clients tell me that they are not going to file for divorce until the kids graduate high school, are through college or finals or ….. they believe that their parents’ divorce will be easier because they are older. This is simply not true. In my years of practice, I have found that young children are generally more resilient than older or grown children. If you are considering divorce and your children are older, I encourage you to be aware of your grown children’s emotions, their heartache and their loss. They are not your therapist nor are they a messenger to the other parent. You cannot expect them to take sides and you should encourage them to enjoy the other parent as much as they enjoy you. Listen to their words. Believe what they say. Let them cry. Assure them that the divorce is not their fault. Be kind to them even when they are not kind to you. Tell them they are not responsible for fixing what is broken between their parents. Love them. With all of your broken heart. Just love them. Your children still need you. They need your unconditional love. Your support. Your patience and kindness. Even when you do not even know if you can get out of bed because of your own emotional pain, your grown children (as much or more than your younger children) need every part of you.
If you are looking for help understanding family law, business law, or estate and probate law, contact the Law Office of Diane St. Yves, PLLC in Houston, Texas by filling out our contact form or call us at 281-501-1558 today.